Wednesday, September 16, 2009

week 3: Stephanie's confidence questions

What if you fear public speaking--but don't have enough speaking experience to know firsthand what could go wrong or how you might handle it? That's a problem that I suspect keeps many a would-be speaker from taking the stage. It's week three in our Step Up Your Speaking program and Stephanie's video this week focuses on just that. Here are her questions:

  • How do public speakers stay focused? She notes distractions from the audience and has seen great speakers who don't get distracted by it and stay on message. What games do you play to keep from being thrown off by what's going on around you?
  • How do you know you're not sounding silly? How can you be confident in that? "I don't want to sound like I don't know what I'm talking about," Stephanie says, and it's a fear with a lot wrapped up in it: your credibility, future success, even whether you'll be asked back to speak again.
  • How do you avoid comparing yourself to other people? Stephanie's focus here is to avoid copying other great speakers and develop her own compelling style, rather than imitating others--or, possibly, feeling worse about her own skills.

Just like all my other trainees, Stephanie's asked some very smart questions. Feel free to leave your own answers, tips and ideas for her in the comments, and I'll be posting a video response to her soon.

Related: Go to The Eloquent Woman on Facebook to see these suggestions from our fans on how to build confidence and reduce fear of speakin.

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