Reichl, a former food critic for the New York Times and Los Angeles Times and--at the time of this speech--editor of Gourmet magazine, spoke of her mother, as many of the other honorees did. But her tribute took a turn the others did not. From the speech:
My mother would have been one hundred years old today. And so I've been thinking about her, and how she helped me to become the person that I am....
But my mother was a great example of everything I didn't want to be, and to this day I wake up every morning grateful that I'm not her.Shocked silence met those lines. But as Reichl continued, giving a blunt assessment of her mother's life and its influence on her, the audience members started to see themselves and their own mothers. Immediately, she said:
Grateful, in fact, not to be any of the women of her generation, who were unlucky enough to have been born at what seems to me to have been the worst possible time to have been a middle-class American woman.Many were in tears by the end of the talk, brief as it was. Here's what you can learn from this famous speech:
- Tell your most difficult stories: Reichl's mother was a horrible cook, almost "taste-blind." She was depressed and bipolar and not a particularly good mother in many respects. But by having the courage to talk about how that motivated and shaped her own success, Reichl demonstrates what I mean when I talk about finding your voice as a speaker: If you can bring yourself to share your most difficult stories in a speech, you’ll have the most compelling content and a riveting voice.
- Don't go for the obvious: Award acceptance speeches are almost entirely predictable...and can easily bore the audience, especially if there are several to sit through. By not just thanking her mother but using her mother as a foil for her achievements, Reichl had the room in the palm of her hand.
- Say the things only you can say: No one, but no one, could have stood in front of that room and said, "Ruth's so grateful not to be her mother." But she could--and in doing so, shared an intimate and insightful part of herself that made the talk unique.
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