Friday, April 28, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Judge Phyllis Randolph Frye's "My Son"

Before Phyllis Frye became known as the grandmother of the transgender movement, she was a parent--to a son who she chose not see for 16 years. They reunited in 1991, and Frye shared the story at the 1992 International Conference on Transgender Law and Employment Policy.

Frye is the first openly transgender judge in Texas and one of the first openly transgender judges in the United States. Along with her private legal practice, she serves as an associate municipal judge in Houston, presiding over the same courtroom she had dreaded entering decades before, fearful that she would be swept up by the city's anti-cross-dressing laws.

Before that, she had spent the late 1970s and 1980s enduring neighborhood threats to her and her partner, and job discrimination that made it impossible for her to continue her work as an engineer. She was disowned by her family after she told them she was Phyllis, and no longer the Phillip Frye who had been an Eagle Scout and an Army lieutenant.

She went to law school in part to maintain her GI Bill stipend, but she quickly realized that a law degree would give her "the tools to defend myself against all the crap that was dished my way," she later told The New York Times. In the earliest years of her new career, Frye said she struggled with self-doubt about her abilities as a lawyer and advocate. But she was persistent in her efforts to build an active transgender community, and in arguing for her right to live with the same privileges she enjoyed when she was called Phillip.

Mara Keisling, the executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality, said that she and Phyllis had benefited from being white, middle class and male before their transitions, when "suddenly I found myself marginalized. But I had always had the privilege to speak up. A lot of civil rights movements start from voiceless people. Our movement had a lot of voice-y people."

Frye rarely lost her voice. She charmed her fellow law students and lawyers with her big hats and unfailing courtesy, and she became an indefatigable organizer that convened some of the earliest nationwide conferences on transgender law, employment and health care. But during those years she was also speaking out in a more private way to her son, in an attempt to slowly rebuild that relationship. It is through the lens of this speech, preserved at the Digital Transgender Archive, that we learn what it cost her and other transgender individuals to "merely be true as to who we are."

What can you learn from this deeply personal speech?
  • Choose a strong, simple start. "My son is named Randy, and I love him very much." It's hard to get more direct than Frye is at the beginning of this speech, and the words couldn't be more powerful. Most of the talk proceeds like this, using plain language and a straightforward retelling of events. But in the spare few sentences with which she begins, she manages to show that a simple thing like sharing her son's birthday is not something that she and those in her audience can take for granted.
  • Remember that personal examples have their limitations. One of the interesting themes that Frye comes back to several times in the speech is that her decisions regarding her son are hers alone, and not meant to serve as the "correct" example for anyone in the audience. Her speech at the 1992 conference was part of a larger discussion about transgender parent rights, and she is quick to note that times have changed since she made the choice in 1976 to leave her son behind with his mother. By adding these caveats, Frye takes a respectful approach, acknowledging that even if she is a movement icon, many in her audience face significantly different challenges than she did.
  • Don't forget to look for ways to use the invisible visual. There are so many great examples in this speech of the invisible visual that creates a strong, memorable and persuasive image in a listener's mind. Many of the details of Frye's physical transition work as these visuals, but the image that sticks with me the most is her description of the missing "Y" in her PH_L signatures in the letters to her son, holding it back until he was willing to fill in the blank himself.
(Photo courtesy of Frye, Oaks, Benavidez and O'Neil)

(Freelance writer Becky Ham contributed this Famous Speech Friday post)

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Thursday, April 27, 2017

39 lies, myths, and mistaken notions speakers tell themselves

As a professional speaker coach, I hear a lot of lies, myths, and mistaken notions from speakers--mostly things they tell themselves about their speaking and presenting. Really, the 39 items on this list are assumptions, but often, they're not backed up by data or evidence.

Yes, they may be your experience, or what you think is your experience. Or they may be, as the meditation masters like to say, thoughts that are "real, but not true." In many cases, the things you tell yourself about your speaking are the biggest barrier between you and successful speaking.

Take a look at the list of the myths I hear speakers repeat most often, and see if you recognize any that you're telling yourself:
  1. If I use slides, no one will look at me.
  2. If I use slides with pictures, no one will know I'm using them as cue cards.
  3. It's important to read my slides to be sure all the information is conveyed.
  4. Everyone always uses slides.
  5. I'm telling that joke at the beginning for the benefit of my audience. It doesn't have to connect with my topic.
  6. More jokes are better.
  7. It would be impolite if I don't spend time right at the beginning thanking everyone.
  8. I need to use slides to have a record of the presentation, for investors or absent interested people.
  9. My slides make a good takeaway or handout.
  10. I need to summarize my presentation right at the start to "tell 'em what I'm going to tell 'em." Otherwise, no one will pay attention.
  11. I also need to "tell 'em what I told 'em" at the end, so the audience can remember what I just said.
  12. Everyone can tell that I'm nervous.
  13. Everyone can tell that I didn't prepare.
  14. If I prepare, I will seem too forced and unnatural.
  15. Everyone here knows more than I do about my topic.
  16. I will get questions.
  17. I won't get questions.
  18. If I prepare a lot, my presentation will go better.
  19. If I don't prepare, no one will notice.
  20. I don't need to prepare.
  21. If I memorize my talk, I will sound like a robot, or an 8-year-old child who's memorized a poem.
  22. I need a lectern.
  23. I use my hands too much.
  24. My voice sounds awful.
  25. I have to have my notes in my hand on stage, and I won't look at them.
  26. I look better in black.
  27. I look like Steve Jobs in black.
  28. No one will hear my dangling jewelry, even if it's near the mic.
  29. I look fat on stage.
  30. I can't look at the audience or I'll faint.
  31. I have to look at the audience or I'll faint.
  32. I need to change things right up to the last minute.
  33. They're really listening to me.
  34. They're really not listening to me.
  35. I need to speed up so I don't bore anyone. Keep it moving.
  36. I can't slow down. I'm from New York (or wherever you are from).
  37. I can't speak with a script.
  38. I can't speak without a script.
  39. I know everything I need to know about public speaking and presenting.
If you do recognize these as your own thoughts, it might be time to investigate why you keep telling yourself these things, and whether there's data or evidence to the contrary. And if the lack of data is because you didn't practice and try something new, try that approach first. Your coach recommends it.

(Creative Commons licensed photo by scaty1)

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Monday, April 24, 2017

The Eloquent Woman's weekly speaker toolkit

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Friday, April 21, 2017

For #marchforscience, 13 famous speeches by women scientists and engineers

Scientists will be speaking up tomorrow in Washington, DC, and in cities around the world for the March for Science, so it's a great time to inspire with this baker's dozen of speeches by women scientists and engineers. They not only cover issues related to being a woman in a technical field, but also innovate, in many cases, modes of public speaking. Each of these speeches is part of The Eloquent Woman Index of Famous Speeches by Women, and at the links, you will find--where available--audio, video, text, and ways you can incorporate their lessons into your own public speaking. Keep speaking up, women scientists and engineers! We need to hear you:
  1. Amelia Earhart's "A Woman's Place in Science" was an important address that took advantage of radio's broadcast powers to reach women with the idea that they could work, consume, and enjoy the benefits of science.
  2. Danielle George's Royal Institution lectures, a Christmas tradition in England, were only the sixth since 1825 given by a woman, the first by a woman engineer, and the first by one who was eight months pregnant. 
  3. Diane Kelly on what we don't know about penis anatomy is a TEDMED talk that details what this woman scientist discovered after she was told not to bother pursuing a line of research that interested her.
  4. IBM CEO Ginni Rometty's Northwestern University commencement speech handled a slip of the tongue with ease and humor, and focused on just what graduates want to hear about: the future.
  5. Tech pioneer Grace Hopper explained nanoseconds so that anyone might understand them, using lengths of wire. It's a great demonstration, and evidence of her ample skills as a science communicator.
  6. Jane Goodall's "What separates us from the apes" takes a look at the lecture of a frequent speaker who believes strongly in getting in front of live audiences to explain her research.
  7. Jill Bolte Taylor's "stroke of insight" TED talk required her first to relearn how to speak after a major stroke. She wins, hands down, the race for most unusual prop, a real human brain.
  8. Katharine Hayhoe's climate change elevator speech takes a big, complex topic and boils it down briefly--and clearly. It's a great model for scientists seeking to discuss hot topics with clarity.
  9. Rachel Carson's "A new chapter to Silent Spring" was a big keynote for this nervous public speaker. Even so, she chose a key consumer audience for it, and used novel undersea audio recordings as part of this speech.
  10. Astronaut Sally Ride's "Shoot for the Stars" speech draws on this physicist's experience as the first American woman in space. Watch how she deftly uses Q&A to share more data.
  11. Sheena Iyengar's TED talk on the art of choosing shares this psycho-economist's research on how we make decisions. Iyengar, who is blind, also describes a fun story about her choosing nail polish colors.
  12. Sheila Widnall on women in engineering minced no words in talking about the discrimination women in the field face. But this speech includes both barriers to women's progress, and enablers that help them move ahead.
  13. Dame Stephanie Shirley on women in tech at TED details how this pioneer built a highly successful all-woman, at-home programming business at a time when most women didn't work outside the home. It's a great example.
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Thursday, April 20, 2017

How trauma kills our storytelling abilities

I've told you why it's important not to make all your personal stories 'happily ever after' stories, and to keep in the messy parts. And I've shared here a real-life story about a cancer patient who was dying, and asked to speak about her treatment, clearly a difficult task.

But it's also true that some stories are just too traumatic to tell. I've seen many speakers overcome by the experience of trying to speak in front of an audience about a deep personal trauma. In effect, speaking about it is the equivalent of reliving the traumatic experience, or can be. But storytelling--whether you do it in public or in private--can be a path toward coming to grips with your trauma.

Here's a good example in a Chronicle of Higher Education article about a woman who survived the shootings at Virginia Tech a decade ago. Today, Kristina Anderson speaks to groups about her experiences. Here's what happened at one of them:
Ms. Anderson, a sincere 29-year-old with crystal-blue eyes, takes the hallway to the resort’s convention center. Two hundred law-enforcement officials, mental-health experts, and campus-safety officers have come for the Association of Threat Assessment Professionals’ spring conference. She takes a seat toward the back of a room and listens as the keynote speaker, Sheriff Jerry L. Demings of Orange County, describes the police response to the fatal shooting of 49 people at an Orlando nightclub last year. 
Soon, Ms. Anderson notices her heart pounding. She puts two fingers to her neck and checks her pulse. Fast. She breathes deeply, trying to slow the sudden creep of anxiety. She’s nervous about tomorrow’s presentation, but she feels something else, too. It’s the weight of an approaching anniversary. 
On April 16, 2007, a troubled student armed with semi-automatic pistols killed 32 people and wounded 17 others at Virginia Tech. Ms. Anderson was one of them. 
These days she describes her experience, in city after city, giving presentations about school and workplace safety. She did 86 last year. It’s a job, a way of reshaping the meaning of that terrible day again and again. Survival, she’s still learning, isn’t a one-time thing, a seam stitched and then forgotten.
That reshaping of her story is a key part of recovering from trauma. But first, the trauma kills off our ability to tell stories, as you'll learn in this interview by Krista Tippett with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, an expert in how the body processes memory and trauma. From the interview:
MS. TIPPETT: Something that’s very interesting to me in how you talk about trauma, the experience of trauma, what it is, is how the nature of memory is distorted, that memories are never precise recollections, but that in general, as we move through the world, memories become integrated and transformed into stories that help us make sense. But in the case of traumatic memories, they’re not integrated, and they’re not even really remembered as much as they’re relived. 
DR. VAN DER KOLK: That’s correct. There’s actually a very old observation, and it was made extensively in the 1890s already by various people, including Freud. That’s really what you see when you see traumatized people. Now, these days, the trauma is a popular subject. People say, “Tell me about your trauma.” But the nature of our trauma is that you actually have no recollection for it as a story in a way. 
Many victims, over time, get to tell a story to explain why they are so messed up. But the nature of a traumatic experience is that the brain doesn’t allow a story to be created. And here, you have an interesting paradox that it’s normal to distort your memories. Like, I’m one out of five kids. When we have a family reunion, we all tell stories about our own childhood, and everybody always listens to everybody else’s stories — says, “Did you grow up in the same family as I did?” 
MS. TIPPETT: Right. There are five versions of every story. 
DR. VAN DER KOLK: Yeah. There’s all these very, very different versions, and they barely ever overlap. So, people create their own realities in a way. What is so extraordinary about trauma, is that these images or sounds or physical sensations don’t change over time. So people who have been molested as kids continue to see the wallpaper of the room in which they were molested. Or when they examine all these priest-abuse victims, they keep seeing the silhouette of the priest standing in the door of the bathroom and stuff like that. So it’s these images, these sounds that don’t get changed. So it’s normal to change. 
My old teacher, George Vaillant, did a study that you may have heard about. It’s called the Grant Study. And from 1939 to 1942, they followed the classes at Harvard every five years, and it’s going on to this day. Most of them went off to war in 1942, and almost all of them came back in 1945, and they were interviewed. And then they have interviews in 1989, 1990, 1991. It turns out that the people who did not develop PTSD, which was the vast majority, tell very different stories, let’s say, in 1990 than back in 1945. So now it was a glorious experience, it was a growth experience, and how good it was, how close they were to people, and how patriotic they felt. And it’s all sort of cleaned up. 
MS. TIPPETT: Right. But it’s become a coherent narrative. 
DR. VAN DER KOLK: But it’s very coherent, and it’s a nice story, and it’s good to listen to it, and relatives have all heard it a million times, but — because we make happy stories in our mind. People who got traumatized continue to have the same story in 1990 as they told back in 1945, so they cannot transform it. When we treat people, you see the narrative change, and people start introducing new elements.
Later in the interview, Tippett asks about Broca's area, a part of the brain responsible for processing language, and we learn a bit about what's going on in your brain when trauma interferes with your storytelling skills:
DR. VAN DER KOLK: Well, in our study and some others, I mean, for me that was really the great finding early on, is that when people are into their trauma, Broca’s area shuts down. That is something that almost everybody has experienced. You get really upset with your partner or your kid, suddenly you take leave of your senses and you say horrible things to that person. And afterwards, you say, “Oh, I didn’t mean to say that.” 
The reason why you said it is because Broca’s area, which is sort of the part of your brain that helps you to say reasonable things and to understand things and articulate them, shuts down. So when people really become very upset, that whole capacity to put things into words in an articulate way disappears. And for me, that is a very important finding because it helped me to realize that, if people need to overcome the trauma, we need to also find methods to bypass what they call the tyranny of language.
That says a lot about the power of speaking something out loud, doesn't it? It's useful information to keep in mind when you are evaluating whether to speak on a topic that causes or caused you great distress.

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Monday, April 17, 2017

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Friday, April 14, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Amal Clooney at the UN on Nadia Murad

(Editor's note: Leonoor Russell, speechwriter in the Senate of the Dutch Parliament, recommended this Amal Clooney speech, saying, "this speech might be a good addition to The Eloquent Woman. Not only because of the language (ISIS is described as "a bureaucracy of evil on an industrial scale") but also because it is a great example of using emotion in a speech. I remember you talking about that once: "Write from the head, speak from the heart." My favorite quote from the speech is this: "She has defied all the labels life has given her." Let's take a look at this stirring speech. Thanks, Leonoor! And a personal point of pride: This is the 250th speech in The Eloquent Woman's Index of Famous Speeches by Women.)

Human rights attorney Amal Clooney may be more famous in some circles due to her actor husband George Clooney, but she has long held her own as a public speaker--in court, and in world forums about human rights. In September 2016, the United Nations was appointing one of her clients, Nadia Murad, as its first Goodwill Ambassador for the Dignity of Survivors of Human Trafficking. Murad, a Yazidi human rights activist from Iraq, was kidnapped when she was 19 by the so-called Islamic State, beaten, tortured, and raped. After her escape, Clooney decided to represent her in legal action against the Islamic State.

Here's how Clooney described Murad's experiences:
Two summers ago, her life as a 21-year-old student was shattered when ISIS took over her village. She was forced to watch her mother and brothers be marched off to their death. She saw an ISIS militant take her niece Rajan, a 16-year-old girl so slight that you could circle her waist with your hand. 
Nadia herself was traded from one ISIS fighter to another. She was forced to pray, forced to dress up and put makeup on in preparation for rape, and one night, brutally abused by a group of men two at a time, until she was unconscious. She has shown us scars from cigarette burns and beatings. And she has told us that throughout her ordeal, ISIS soldiers would call her a dirty unbeliever and brag about conquering the Yazidi women and wiping their religion from the face of the earth. 
Nadia was one of 6,700 Yazidi taken by ISIS 2 summers ago, to be sold in markets and on Facebook, sometimes for as little as 20 dollars. Nadia’s mother was one of 80 older women who were executed and buried in an unmarked grave. Her brothers, part of a group of 600 who were murdered in a single day. 
Clooney also used her remarks to call on the UN security council to set up a legal mechanism for bringing the Islamic State to justice for the genocide being committed. She framed that request in personal terms in her role as a speaker:
Excellencies, ladies, and gentlemen, this is the first time I have spoken in this chamber and the first time I have had a chance to address a crowd in front of the UN secretary-general. I wish I could say I was proud to be here, but I’m not. I am ashamed, as a supporter of the UN, that states are failing to prevent or even punish genocide, because they find their own interests get in the way. I am ashamed as a lawyer that there is no justice being done and barely a complaint being made about it. I am ashamed as a woman that girls like Nadia can have their bodies sold and used as battlefields. I’m ashamed as a human being that we ignore their cries for help.
Clooney, pregnant with twins now, spoke more recently at the UN about ISIS, and most of the coverage was about her "baby bump," not her subject matter. But in both speeches, her substantive command of the issues was on display. What can you learn from this speech?
  • Put some of yourself into your recommendation for another: Clooney's role was to speak in support of her client and friend. But couching her request in terms of her own personal perspective added value to her remarks--not only because of her expertise, but her emotional perspective. She underscored it by highlighting her many perspectives--supporter of the UN, lawyer, woman.
  • Do the same for the person you're endorsing: Following Leonoor's favorite line--"She has defied all the labels life has given her"--Clooney enumerates those labels: "She has defied all the labels life has given her: rape victim, slave, refugee. She has instead created new ones: survivor, leader, women’s advocate, Nobel peace nominee, and now, as of today, UN goodwill ambassador." We often limit the ways we describe women's roles in the world. Not so this speech.
  • Even when seated for delivery, have presence: There's little room in this setting for movement to accentuate remarks. Nonetheless, it is a gripping piece of testimony. Clooney uses varied vocal tones, her gaze, and vocal emphasis to put across the urgency of her words. And this is a well-written speech, which aids in the delivery. We don't miss having her move across a stage here.
Watch the video of this speech below.


 

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Thursday, April 13, 2017

What linguists think about "um:" Guess who gets punished for using it?

The New York Times recently published So, Um, How Do You, Like, Stop Using Filler Words? It was a disappointing rehash of the tired suggestion that ums and other fillers are to be avoided at all costs. No linguists were quoted.  And this is how I reacted:
Michael Erard's book, Um. . .: Slips, Stumbles, and Verbal Blunders, and What They Mean, reshaped my perception of the dreaded filler word. Ums, he notes, are 10 percent of everyone's speech, the world around. And until we started recording sound, no one took much notice of them in literature. But after recorded sound, the reaction to ums was stark. Toastmasters, which came into being around the same time, made a point of having ums counted whenever club members speak, a shaming way to eradicate them. Transcription services agreed to omit ums from transcripts; even today, you have to pay to re-insert them. And millions of speakers labor under the misimpression that ums are evil, as a result.

So I was delighted when Michael sent along this response, including the perspective of linguists, to the Times article. Let's stop demonizing filler words made its objections to the Times article clear early:
1. It doesn’t address the many valuable functions these words play.
2. It perpetuates a sneaky type of bias against women and young people.
It's worth reading the article if only for the discussion of the many ways we use ums and filler words--"discourse markers," in the linguist's words. You'll start thinking of them as a more versatile tool, and one you may choose to use. But of course, I was drawn to the bias against women who make use of um. From the article:
The NYT article is purportedly addressed to everyone, but it’s largely women and young people who are judged negatively for talking this way. 
The article does make this point, or at least a related one. Mele writes: “Speakers who are well known in their professions but overuse verbal pauses are still perceived as credible because they have built a reputation. Audience members will chalk up those habits to just the way they talk, Ms. Marshall said. … But newcomers who use as many interjections as seasoned professionals will be seen as less credible because they do not have the years of experience.” 
Yet he stops short of the obvious conclusion: there’s nothing wrong with using these words. The only people who are critiqued for using them are already low-status, and this critique helps maintain the low status of certain people and groups.
Separately, I found Jessica Bennett's What A Speech Coach Told Me About “Speaking Like A Woman” (And Why It’s BS), a spot-on take about "filler words" from a woman speaker's point of view. She says:
When it comes to women and speech, though, there’s an important caveat—that what’s been deemed the ideal doesn’t necessarily match the way women actually, well, talk. And so we are told that we sound unconfident when we raise our pitch. That we should remove our “likes” and “justs” (and there are apps to help us do it), defry our chords, and that we should practice, and learn to find our “best speaking voices.” 
But what if we’ve already found them?
That's the viewpoint I take here on The Eloquent Woman, and in my own coaching of speakers. There's more right with you than wrong with you, most of the time, and as Mary Beard reminds us, the real problem is that we haven't learned to listen to women's voices as conveying power...so people keep trying to make women sound like men. Sigh.

Let's say it again: There's nothing wrong with using these words. Help me spread that around, willya? My special thanks to Michael Erard for pointing me to this very good article, which ends with excellent resources for those who wish to dive deeper into filler words and how they can be a versatile tool in your speaking.

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Monday, April 10, 2017

The Eloquent Woman's weekly speaker toolkit

Savvy speakers keep up with my wide-ranging reading list on women and public speaking by following The Eloquent Woman on Facebook, where these links and articles appear first. I always collect them here for you on Mondays as well. It's a great way to expand your public speaking knowledge:
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Friday, April 7, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Gwen Ifill on politics, policy & leadership

Back when we used to watch the evening news on television--remember that?--we spoke loyally of our favorite anchors and our habit of "inviting them into our homes." Starting in 1999, my Friday night loyalties lay with Gwen Ifill on "Washington Week" (formerly "Washington Week in Review"), and it was with tremendous sadness that she left my living room in 2016.

The daughter of Caribbean immigrants, Ifill was an award-winning journalist and author who notched many "firsts" in her career. She was the first African-American woman to host a major political talk show in "Washington Week," and the first with Judy Woodruff to co-anchor an all-woman national nightly news program in PBS' "Newshour." She was also the first African-American woman to moderate a vice presidential debate, in 2004, and she and Woodruff became the first team of women to moderate a Democratic presidential debate in 2016. When Ifill died in November last year, she was a giant in the world of political analysis and reporting. She was also remembered as a warm and thoughtful speaker who especially took the time to encourage students from all backgrounds to pursue careers in journalism.

Ifill gave numerous public speeches, including many commencement addresses, but this 2011 speech as the Mary Louise Smith Chair at Iowa State University's Carrie Chapman Catt Center stands out as a terrific example of the kind of speaker she was. In "Politics, Policy and the Reality of Leadership" she is funny, serious, frank and inspirational. And for a quick glimpse into how Ifill saw herself, you could do worse than this description she offers in the speech:
If you judge me simply by reading my bio, you could also brand me as an activist on behalf of immigrants because my parents were born in another country, an activist on behalf of free speech because I believe in the First Amendment, women's rights because I am a woman, red lipstick because I wear red lipstick. Some of that would be true and some of it would not be. There is one description, however, that I have recently come to embrace and that is as a leader.
What can you learn from this famous speech?
  • Take care when making transitions. I marvel at how many different things Ifill manages to cover in this speech, and yet it all hangs together beautifully. This is due in large part to her thoughtful use of transitions. For example, she uses her own biography as a segue into speaking about leadership, which then opens into a larger discussion of women's leadership in politics. She even has a nice way of moving from the usual introduction where she has to thank her local Iowa hosts into the difficulties of escaping Washington and its nonstop political cycle. Look for these graceful transitions throughout the speech--can you steal some of her strategies here?
  • Encourage the Q&A. The format of the Smith Chair talks is to leave plenty of time for audience Q&A, so it's not exactly in Ifill's hands to include this. But it's the way she encourages questions, right up front in the speech, that's impressive. She lets the audience know that the Q&A is as important to her as it is to them--she gets to "pick their brains, learn from you and go tell the world." Framing the Q&A like this helps both speaker and audience feel more engaged and less anxious when the floor opens up at the end of a speech.
  • Tell the stories that only you can tell. There must be hundreds of speeches out there about "leadership," but how many of them can include a story about the time that the leader found a racist note on her note at her first newspaper gig--and why she still decided to take the paper's permanent job offer? Ifill was proud of bring her own voice, her own background and her own perspectives to her work, and you should strive to do the same in your speeches. If you won't tell you story--even if it's a painful one--who will?
(Creative Commons licensed photo by Michael Foley. Freelance writer Becky Ham contributed this Famous Speech Friday post)

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Thursday, April 6, 2017

The mic and the woman speaker: Practical tips

Last week, I shared an article that got a huge response from readers of The Eloquent Woman on Facebook: Titled Switching to men's clothing taught me that the world doesn't want women to get too comfortable, it hit on something that goes double if you're a woman public speaker or presenter.  And you can double that again when it comes to wardrobe choices on stage and the speaker's most important tool, the microphone.

That's because microphones, like so many other things speakers wear, often work best with men's outfit choices. A male speaker is typically wearing plenty of things on which you can hook a lavalier mic: Lapels or a tie or a jacket breast pocket for the mic that goes in front, and a belt and pant waistband on which to hook the battery pack in back, or a pocket to put it in. A jacket to cover all. Using the headset mics made popular at conferences like TED? Men aren't wearing earrings that can make noise or get in the way of the headset. And the headpiece won't do too much to their simpler hairstyles. Yes, there are conveniences to the male uniform, particularly when they're getting mic'd before they speak.

Women speakers, with more varied wardrobe options, have to think ahead and plan for microphones when they plan what they're wearing for a speech or presentation. Here are the practical considerations that will save you time and angst backstage:
  1. Know which mic you'll be using, or state a preference: This should be high on your list of logistics questions for the organizers, so you can plan accordingly. If the organizer offers options, let her know your preference and dress accordingly. If they want a consistent mic for all speakers, find out what it is and what they recommend for wardrobe to accommodate the mic. It's this step that most speakers skip, making assumptions that their preferred mic will be available. Don't be that speaker.
  2. The easiest mic for any wardrobe is the wireless handheld mic. No wires, no clips, and you can wear almost anything. Old-fashioned and effective, it makes for the easiest choices.
  3. For lavalier mics, your outfit will need something on the front to which the mic can be clipped, such as a lapel, collar, or neckline. Your outfit also needs to have a defined waistband that can hold up the battery pack/transmitter in the back. And while we've all seen plenty of battery packs hooked on the backs of people on television, you generally want something that can cover that so it's not a distraction. That means a pocket to put it in, or a jacket to cover it, with plenty of room for the wire to wind around to the front. For a defined waistband, separates are your friend: A pant- or skirt-suit with jacket will work best. If you prefer to wear a dress, it will need a solid belt--not a fabric sash--to hold the battery pack.
  4. For headset mics, it's your jewelry that can get in the way. Dangling earrings make more noise than you realize--and your test for what constitutes noise is not whether you can hear it, or whether the audience can hear it, but whether it will be picked up on the audio or video recording or feed. Your solutions are simple: Wear earrings with non-moving parts, or remove the earring closest to the mic side of the headset. No one will notice you're wearing one earring, trust me. Keep necklaces simple, and avoid bangle bracelets, which also contribute to unwanted noise. A smart strategy is to bring with you some options for earrings, and discuss them with the technician who'll get you wired backstage. Your headset mic also has a battery pack, so all the advice about waistbands above applies here, too. 
(Creative Commons licensed photo by TED Conference)

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Monday, April 3, 2017

The Eloquent Woman's weekly speaker toolkit

Savvy speakers keep up with my wide-ranging reading list on women and public speaking by following The Eloquent Woman on Facebook, where these links and articles appear first. I always collect them here for you on Mondays as well. It's a great way to expand your public speaking knowledge:
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